The past year has been quite the ride. It’s been full of good stuff, challenges, and even a few adventures.
Earlier this summer, I found myself feeling lost.
Where am I going?
Do I have what it takes to be a success?
Do I want to do this work anymore? What’s the point?
At some point, I realized I’d lost my passion for my work.
Thankfully, feeling lost didn’t impact my work, as my customers gave me inspiration and energy during this time.
Shortly after, though, the passion would fade again.
In reflection, I can see I gave up on myself for a while.
This past year, I drank too much, over-ate, and didn’t work out much. The results are evident by the weight I’ve put on this past year.
Then, one day, I found something while standing on a mountain. I didn’t know it then, but I can see it now in a moment of reflection.
What I found was me. I know I never left, no matter how much it didn’t feel that way.
During this time of feeling lost, I took on a lot of problems that weren’t mine. Actually, they’re nobody’s problem. It’s just a made-up bullsh*t story that serves no purpose.
For example, my money story was one of the most prevalent.
I kept telling myself a story that I was failing in business because my revenue numbers dropped off this summer. Despite the failure story, I told myself I wasn’t pushing for more business.
Not pushing for new business over the summer was a conscious choice because, at some level, I knew I needed to take a break by slowing down for a while.
In August, I committed to get back on track in September. I wanted to go beyond the bare minimum of running the business.
It wasn’t easy, and I procrastinated for a while.
Then, one day, I started showing up and getting the work done.
The result is evident as I now have several bookings in my calendar.
I was on a flight from Europe returning from a business trip as I wrote this post.
Truthfully, there were a few days of pleasure in there, too, as I reconnected with a dear friend I hadn’t seen in four years.
The good news is that the flames of passion for my work are growing brighter again.
I’ve returned to looking after myself. I am returning to supporting my mind, body and spirit through better eating and drinking habits, along with a regular morning practice.
In the interest of full disclosure, I blew it while in Italy. But OMG … the food and wine was amazing!! (*See my post next Sunday for one of my food experiences in Italy.*)
What do you do when you’re feeling lost?
Here are a few steps that help me when I’m lost:
– Acknowledge that I’m lost — I won’t find a solution to a problem I won’t admit I have.
– Remind myself that life is all made up, and so is the story that has me feeling lost. No matter how bad it may seem, I know I’m bigger than any problem.
– Start taking intentional action and find ways to keep myself on track.
– Ask for help when I can’t find a way through my stuck spot.
– Love myself unconditionally.
Feeling lost? Unsure which way to go?
Talk to someone. Book a call with me to explore a path forward for you (no obligation.) You could also talk to a therapist, friend, spouse or anyone you trust.
I took too long to talk about this time of feeling lost. Please don’t make the same mistake.
You’ve got this.
p.s. Your mental well-being is more important than anything else in your life. You deserve to fall in love with your life again!
After all, there are no do-overs in life.