One of the most common ways I used to create problems for myself is to try to please everyone. Anytime I thought someone might get upset, I would put my interests and well-being aside and try to make them happy.
The problem is, this comes at a cost to both of us. It’s very draining for me as I try to look after everyone. It’s left me with very little energy and headspace to look after my affairs. It often leaves the other person with a problem that has been smoothed over but not solved. They may feel better about it temporarily, but that’s only going to last so long.
It’s not possible to make everyone happy, so stop trying. What the world needs is for you to show up authentically. Just strive to be the best version of you. Both you and they will be better off for it.
You’ve got this.