Think back to the last time you argued with someone. The type of argument in which you see an issue differently than they do.

It might have started as a quiet exchange of different ideas. Then, as the debate continued, it escalated into a heated discussion.

As things escalated, you likely became less and less open to different ideas. Nevertheless, you knew you had the correct answer, and why can’t they see that?

What if neither of you was right?

You can’t help but look at the world with your values, biases, and beliefs.

In other words, reality is something you’re defining for yourself.

This means, of course, you can redefine your reality.

How? By slowing down the debate and listening to what’s happening between the words.

What if reality is something neither one of you sees?

You’ve got this.