Listening in the silence

Do you know those moments when you are in a conversation, and things go quiet? That awkward silence can have people squirming. Do you laugh a little and make a joke about the awkward silence? Do you say something to escape the uncomfortable feeling in the silence? You...

Boundaries are key

What would the impact be if you tossed a new driver the keys and said: “good luck.” In Ontario, new drivers must obtain a G1 license. The G1 license has many boundaries constraining what, how and where you can drive. The boundaries of a G1 license are to...

Give evil nothing to oppose

Do you ever find yourself in a debate where the other person seems unwilling to give up their perspective? You might label them as inflexible and unreasonable. When another person seems inflexible, turn your attention towards yourself. Often, such debates are rooted...

What is trying to happen?

What are the behaviours in others that make you uncomfortable? Withdrawal? Anger? Talking too much? Often, people label such behaviours as bad, wrong or unprofessional. What if these behaviours are simply a sign of something wanting to happen? On the edge When you...

Those who do and do not talk

“Those who know do not talk. Those who talk do not know.” — Laozi This is apparently a misquote of Taoism. However, I’m going to use it. For me, the quote points to something meaningful for leaders to be mindful of: Extraverts tend to think out loud. Thinking...

What’s troubling you?

When was the last time you wanted to do something that caused you to stress? You might have spent days, or even weeks, stressing, planning and anticipating the worst. Then, when the day finally came, it seemed almost too easy. The event came and went, and all that...